When you’re trying to lose weight and improve your health it is often you find that your family, friends and coworkers become the greatest obstacle. Some of them don’t mean to be while others have no intention of supporting you as you do something they are not willing to do. I found this to be one of the trickiest things to navigate on this journey thus far.
Before my Husband got on board he was at the head of the saboteur line. (Love you Matt)
I’d buy a bag of salad mix and carrot sticks so when I got snacky there was something quick and yummy to eat that wasn’t cereal or a PB&J… He’d eat more than half the bag of salad mix before sitting down to gut a bag of potato chips and a jar of salsa.
Unbeknownst to him his demise was more imminent than he dared to ponder…
If you think peer pressure stops in grade school think again… you haven’t seen peer pressure until you try to change bad eating habits. Because next in line I had my friends who all too often said something like: “You’re doing so well and you look great, a doughnut won’t hurt you.” Or: “C’mon, Tena, what’s one lunch out to eat going to do.” Sound familiar? These people, consciously or not, are trying to sabotage your new lifestyle.
No matter who you are, sooner or later, you will find yourself in a toxic nutritional environment — almost all health conscious people do. It’s like being the one guy at the bar drinking water… you may find yourself adrift in a sea of sugar and calories, all alone, without a veggie or piece of lean protein in sight.
As you move along you will often hear people who are not on the same journey say things like:
“I’m not going to starve myself! I’d rather be fat.” Not realizing that eating sensibly and making healthier choices isn’t starving yourself… it only feels that way if you’ve spent a long period of time overeating and ingesting crappy pseudo food.
My other favorite jibe is: “What’s the matter with you? Are you on drugs? You are wasting away!” or them acting insulted. “Since when don’t you like my lasagna? Oh, now you’re too good for my cheesecake?”
Just take a deep breath and hold strong!
Another typical response is to make you an outsider. This is a favorite ploy among co-workers. So instead of inviting you as they usually do they may just say, “You can’t eat Mexican because of your diet, so we will see you after we go out.” or “There’s, one doughnut left, want it?” They know you want it. They knew your former eating habits… it’s very crass, inconsiderate and childish of them to wave it in your face and it is okay for you to be upset about it. I have found that well placed sarcasm stops this behavior. Responding to them with, “No thank you, I’d hate to keep you from that even half dozen.” works like a charm. I haven’t had a doughnut waved in my face for quite some time thanks to this method.
Some will leave a large array of sweets or snacks around the office and make sure you know it. Then there’s the big candy dish on the receptionist’s desk or by the coffee pot… it can easily be the bane of any office dieter’s existence. Avoid this thing at all costs… it’s just not worth it.
Yet another pitfall will be the friends or loved ones that specialize in making up special holiday rules. “It’s your birthday (anniversary, 4th of July, race weekend, one month something, it’s Friday, we haven’t seen each other in forever, but it’s on sale, etc., etc.) — one piece of cake/pie won’t hurt!”
They mean well but let’s face it, if you give yourself reasons to slack off you could come up with one every day, all day long. One meal can easily turn into a whole day of bad choices that rolls into a week and before you know it you are back to square one and size sixteen. Excuses is not the path to change. It’s the road to Alcatraz and the prison is being trapped in a body you don’t like. All vanity aside, changes have to be made when a gal finds herself breaking into a full sweat just getting dressed in the morning >.< (True story and it was a sad, sad state of affairs that I wish to never repeat).
Then you have Doomsday Dave or Discouraging Diana. They don’t have anything good to say EVER and they feel it is their personal mission to inform you of the bad news and the true reality of your situation. “It’s nice that you are attempting this, but you need to know that statistics show that 93% of people fail to keep off any of weight they lose.” Or: “It’s not my business, but don’t people that lift weights get a lot of injuries?” or “Isn’t your grocery bill through the roof, no wonder you can’t go out and have fun.”
They also like to try their hand at amateur psychoanalysis. “You know, you don’t seem to be as funny since you lost weight, I think this is bad for your mentality. It must be stressing you out.”
Trying as it all is and will be I promise you will make it through this wave of negativity and just like any other trial or tribulation in your lifetime you will get through it and they will grow bored trying to dissuade you.
Just remember there is a whole new life waiting for you outside, off the couch and you’ll be able to go live it wearing new clothes as you strut down this new path with a bounce in your step…